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What Sex Do Gay Men Have?

What Sex Do Gay Men Have?

 

Like all human beings, gay men engage in many different kinds of sexual activity. Individual gay men are all different. Some might have lots of sex, some might not. Some might enjoy many different types of sexual activities while others might just prefer a few. Some find that sex is a really important part of their lives while for others it might not be.

 

Kissing

Kissing is a fair;y universal practice and is completely safe for HIV transmission as saliva doesn't transmit HIV.  Some STIs, such as herpes, can potentially be transmitted through kissing.  It's best to avoid kissing someone if they have a visible coldsore.

 

Masturbation and mutual masturbation

It’s been said that 90% of men the world over masturbate and that the other 10% are lying.  While this is only a joke, it’s not far from the truth.  Masturbation (i.e. wanking) is a very common sexual activity among gay men with 98.5% of gay men reporting they’ve masturbated in the past year. And it is 100% safe for HIV and STIs!

Mutual masturbation is when guys wank each other by touching or rubbing each other’s cocks. Just about every sexual encounter between men involves at least a little bit of mutual masturbation.  Some guys do it as a warm up to, or cool down from, other things while others like to wank each other to orgasm.  Mutual masturbation is considered a safe activity for HIV although using each other’s cum or pre-cum as lubricant does present a risk. 

 

Oral sex

Oral sex is licking, sucking or kissing someone’s cock. It’s also known as a blow job, head job, fellatio, head, cocksucking, and sucking. About 95% of gay men have either given or received oral sex. It's a very common and very pleasurable sex practice.

Oral sex carries a very small risk of HIV transmission, especially if it involves getting cum (semen) in the mouth. Cumming in the other person’s mouth increases the risk of passing on HIV if you're HIV positive. Taking cum in your mouth increases your risk if you're HIV negative, especially if you have any cuts, sores or infected gums. It's also fairly easy to transmit STIs through oral sex. Just make sure you get tested regularly and get the STIs treated. See www.thedramadownunder.info for more information on STIs and STI testing.

 

Rimming

Rimming is the act of licking someone else’s arse or having yours licked. It’s a common practice among gay men, with about 65% of gay men in Sydney saying they’ve been rimmed in the last six months, and about 50% saying they’ve rimmed another guy in the last six months. Rimming is completely safe for HIV. Some STIs can be transmitted through rimming – particularly Hepatitis A which is transmitted through small quantities of shit entering a person’s mouth. Vaccination is available against Hepatitis A - get vaccinated now!

 

Anal sex

Anal sex is when a cock is inserted into an arse. This is also known as anal intercourse or fucking. The person inserting their penis is known as the “top” or the “insertive partner”; while the one who receives into his arse is known as the 'bottom' or 'receptive' partner. Other objects like dildos and vibrators can also be used.

Anal sex is very common among gay men. Almost all gay men have tried anal sex at least once,with about 80% saying they’ve had it in the previous six months.  

Anal sex without condoms is a very high risk activity for HIV transmission. If you are the receptive partner (the one being fucked), infected cum or pre-cum can easily enter the bloodstream through the mucus lining of the arse or through tiny cuts or tears caused by friction. If you're the insertive partner (the one fucking), infected blood or mucus from the lining of the arse can enter the cock through tiny cuts in the skin or through the eye of the penis.

Having an STI increases the chances of transmitting HIV by 10 times. Fucking with condoms is safe because condoms provide an effective barrier for preventing infected fluids passing from one partner to the other. This makes anal sex safe for both the insertive and receptive partners.

If used properly, condoms are very reliable, although they can occasionally break or slip off. It’s a good idea to check from time to time that the condom is on and that it's still intact.

 

Watersports

The terms 'watersports' and 'piss-play' refer to sexual acts involving urine. Amongst gay men in Sydney, research shows that while about 3% of men aged under 25 engage in watersports, about 12% of men aged over 25 engage in it. Since HIV is not present in urine, watersports carry no risk of HIV transmission.

 

BDSM, fantasy and role play

Some sexual practices are more to do with the mind than the body (although they involve bodies too!).

The letters BDSM stand for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism, which refer to practices involving dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual role-playing, sexual fetishism, sadomasochism, and power exchange, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream personal and sexual interactions. 

Fantasy and role-play are where people act out particular fantasies or role-play characters during sex. Not all role-playing actually involves sex, although some of it does.

These activities are generally no riskier for HIV or STI transmission than any other kinds of sex and the same guidelines around safe sex apply. For people who may be into 'bloodsports' extra precautions should be paid to ensure HIV and other blood-borne viruses such as hepatitis C are not transmitted.

 

Fisting

Fisting (also known as 'handballing') is when the whole hand and sometimes part of the forearm is inserted into the anus and rectum. It's best to use latex gloves when fisting and to ensure there's lots of lubricant. Fisting presents almost no risk for HIV unless there are open wounds on the insertive partner’s hand when not using gloves. STIs can be passed through fisting.

 

Group sex

Group sex refers to having sex with more than one partner in the same session. Other terms to describe group sex are gang bang, orgies, group meets, three-ways, threesomes, ménage a trios, sex party, and play party. Group sex can range from a threesome through to a large-scale sex party. 

Group sex is relatively common among gay men. Research in Australia shows that around 40-50% of gay men have recently had group sex.  

Group sex is no riskier than any other kind of sex for HIV and STIs as long as all the normal precautions are taken such as condoms and lube, gloves, and regular testing. Men who are really into group sex are encouraged to get tested for HIV and STIs more frequently (e.g. every 3 months). See www.thedramadownunder.info for more information on STIs and STI testing.

 

More info

 

ACON runs workshops with gay men that cover sexual difficulties and how to solve them. Arse Class focuses on anal health and pleasure while our Better Sex Workshop focuses on sexual techniques. 

Contact: ACON's Peer Education Team

Tel: (02) 9206 2000
Free Call: 1800 063 060
Hearing Impaired: (02) 9283 2088

Email: groups@acon.org.au