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Men's Health
Contact
ACON’s Gay Men's Education Team
Office Hours: 10am - 6pm, Monday - Friday
414 Elizabeth Street
Surry Hills NSW 2010
PO Box 350
Darlinghurst NSW 1300
Tel: (02) 9206 2000
Free Call: 1800 063 060
Hearing Impaired: (02) 9283 2088
Email: sgep@acon.org.au
Difficulties with being fucked
Having problems with receptive anal sex (i.e. being fucked or “bottoming”) is a very common experience. Research with gay men in Sydney shows that nearly 40% have had this problem, while some overseas research shows that it may be even higher. For example, one study found that 62% had ever had this problem. One British study of gay men found that 31% of gay men avoided being fucked because it was too painful.
Difficulties with fucking
Some men find it difficult to fuck other men. This could be to do with not being able to get or keep an erection, or it may be another issue. A small percentage of gay men (about 10-12%) experience actual pain when fucking someone. There’s no reason to panic if this happens, but it’s important to see a doctor.
More info
Contact: ACON’s Gay Men's Education Team
Tel: (02) 9206 2000
Free Call: 1800 063 060
Hearing Impaired: (02) 9283 2053
Email: sgme@acon.org.au
Difficulties with ejaculation
There are two common problems gay men experience with ejaculation:
- Ejaculating too soon / too quickly
- Difficulty with ejaculating
Ejaculating too quickly (sometimes called “premature ejaculation”) is fairly common. One research study found that 44% of gay men had ever experienced this problem, while research in Sydney found that about 20% had had this problem recently. Cumming too soon is most often because of having a highly sensitive penis. The solution is learn to gain better control over when you’re going to cum. Some simple techniques are:
Difficulties with erections
There are two common problems gay men experience with erections:
- Difficulty getting an erection
- Difficulty maintaining an erection
Nearly half of all gay men say that they’ve had problems getting or keeping erections at some time or another. It’s nothing to be ashamed about, and often the problem is more about our high expectations of ourselves. As gay men, we’ve grown up with stereotypes that say we should always be ready for sex, when the truth is, sometimes erections just don’t do exactly what we want them to do.
Lack of interest or desire for sex
Not being interested in sex for a period of time is one of the most common difficulties experienced by gay men. Research shows that about 50% of gay men have ever experienced this problem. Sometimes this problem stems from the simple fact that many gay men feel that they should be up for sex all the time, when the reality is that sometimes we might just not want to have sex.
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General Contacts
ACON’s Gay Men's Education Team
Tel: (02) 9206 2000
Free Call: 1800 063 060
Hearing Impaired: (02) 9283 2088
Email: sgep@acon.org.au
Gay and Lesbian Rights Lobby
